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PFLAG calling all allies

By Terry Moran, Chapter President of PFLAG Hamilton-Bitterroot, Michael P. Moran, MD

As proud parents of a gay daughter and founding members of PFLAG Bitterroot-Hamilton, we would like to thank the Bitterroot Star and a recent opinion writer for providing us with an opportunity to communicate and clarify the meaning and mission of PFLAG.  “PFLAG” is an acronym which stands for Parents, Families and Friends of Lesbians and Gays. The origin of PFLAG dates to 1972 when a supportive mother, marching with her son in a Gay Pride parade, was besieged by young gay people who begged her to speak with their parents. Recognizing the enormous need, this woman started a support group which met in a local church. Over the years, through word of mouth and community need, chapters sprang up all across the country to provide “safe havens” and mutual support for parents with gay and lesbian children. The mission has gradually evolved to promote “the health and well-being of lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender persons, their families and friends through: support, to cope with an adverse society; education, to enlighten an ill-informed public; and advocacy, to end discrimination and to secure equal civil rights.”( We often hear these goals described as some sort of mysterious and evil “gay agenda.” We fail to see how safety and equality should be viewed as anything other than basic rights afforded to all members of a free and civil society.

Pursuant to the safety issue, we are encouraging the valley schools to include language specific to LGBT persons in their anti-bullying and anti-discrimination policies. We firmly believe that all students have the right to feel safe in the school environment. If you agree, we would encourage you to contact your school administrators or board members and voice your support.

We invite all likeminded allies to become members of PFLAG. PFLAG is fundamentally an adult support group. Minors are welcome to attend if accompanied by a responsible adult. We welcome you to become a friend on facebook and follow our activities. Our website: has all the details about becoming a member. The PFLAG national website ( also contains a wealth of information. You can mail your membership or donation to: P.O. Box 202, Hamilton, MT  59840.

The PFLAG Hamilton-Bitterroot chapter began approximately three years ago and is steadily growing in membership and vigor. We are very grateful for the countless expressions of support we have received from the community. We would also like to announce that Hamilton will host the annual PFLAG Pacific Northwest Conference coming up September 21-23. The theme will be “Big Sky/Big Dreams.” We are planning a stimulating program with national speakers, including Jean-Marie Navetta, PFLAG National Director of Equality & Diversity Partnership, Jean Hodges, Chairperson of the Regional Directors at National PFLAG, Amy White Executive Director of the Pride Foundation, Cesar Hernandez, PFLAG Western Field and Policy Manager and Kathy Reim, PFLAG Pacific Northwest Regional Director.

Some conference highlights include:

Keynote speaker: Dr. Robert N. Minor, Professor Emeritus of Religious Studies at the University of Kansas, Lawrence,

He will also present seminars on:

How to be an Activist without Being a Victim: Personal Strategies for Activism and Advocacy,

Dealing with Religion: When You’re Tried Everything and Nothing Seems to Work, Making LGBT Relationships Better.

Other programs will include:

Fundraising 101: Basic Tricks of the Trade

Establishing Winning Boards and Leadership Practices

Faces and Facets: Understanding Transgenderism

Straight for Equality in Faith Communities

Facilitation Skills: Going from Good to Great

Cultivating Respect: Safe Schools for All

Several of these programs will include training which could be beneficial to a variety of community organizations. We hope that many of our supporters will be able to attend.

Lastly, we wish to stress that PFLAG is a purely secular organization with no religious affiliations. While we welcome as members sympathetic supporters from all faith backgrounds, we also recognize that a portion of the “religious” community is the greatest source of the most painful and mean spirited vitriol directed at LGBT people. Unlike some of the more rabidly homophobic members of our community, “we fully support the separation of church and hate.”


5 Responses to PFLAG calling all allies
  1. ramabaikadi
    February 17, 2012 | 8:03 pm

    Good Job. People need to wake up and accept the reality and support their children and community

  2. Roselyn Hallett
    February 17, 2012 | 6:12 am

    Thank you, Terry and PFLAG members, for providing this vital resource to the community and for working to eliminate bullying in our schools. I am so glad that young LGBTQ people in our community have this ally and source of support.

  3. Saundra Amsden
    February 15, 2012 | 8:31 pm

    Thanks for supporting your daughter and our community in all you do. It is wonderful to see our society (granted slowly) moving in the right direction. I hope to see a good showing at the upcoming Hamilton School Board Meeting. I know there are a lot of people out there who want the best for our kids and schools. Lets make it clear to the school board that we are serious.

  4. Roger Williams
    February 15, 2012 | 8:16 pm

    As a person who strongly supports the need for equity, compassion and the support of others in society, particularly those who have been marginalized or disenfranchised by those who are the ignorant among us, I strongly recommend the support of PFLAG. Domestic and sexual violence are not good for any of us.

  5. Terry Moran
    February 15, 2012 | 7:37 pm

    Allies mark your calendar for March 6th at 7:00 pm at Daly Den and plan to attend the Hamilton School Board public meeting. The School Board will listen to the comments concerning the policies of Equal Education, Nondiscrimination and Sex Equity and Bullying. We need your voice and support to add the language “sexual orientation, gender identity or expression” to these polices.

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